The answer to this question isn’t a straightforward yes or no. The application process, number of witnesses needed, and officiant requirements vary by state and country. Whether you’re getting married close to home or abroad, it’s important to know the legal requirements early in the planning process.

Eloping in Washington state

Check here for all of Washington’s current laws about marriage. There are options to apply in person or by mail, but in short, you must apply for a license at least three days prior to your wedding and use it within 60 days.

For your ceremony, you must have an ordained officiant and two witnesses present. Self-solemnizing is an option as well. If you’re interested in learning more about eloping in Washington, check out this guide.

Eloping in a different state

If you’re wanting to elope elsewhere in the United States, it’s very easy. As an elopement photographer and guide, I’d love to help guide you through the legal requirements (such as when to file for a marriage application, how to navigate the waiting period laws, where to pick up a certificate, etc.). Each state has different laws, so it’s important to check these early on. You want to make sure you’ll legally be married when you return home!

Eloping in a foreign country

Marrying abroad can be tricky. Some countries have restrictions on where you can have a ceremony, require translation services and additional paperwork, and even have residency requirements. You can check with the American embassies and consulates abroad for more detailed information about the countries you’re interested in eloping in.

Don’t let the details overwhelm you though. There is an easier option. Most couples prefer to do their paperwork at home, either right before or after they exchange vows.

This allows you to plan your trip with complete freedom instead of prioritizing paperwork and legalities. Doing this doesn’t make the experience any less meaningful, and the day you exchange vows and celebrate your commitment is the day you get married.

Can a family member or friend marry you?

Yes! In the United States, a family member or friend is welcome to serve as your officiant if they’re an ordained minister.

The process to become ordained is very simple, free, and can be done through the Universal Life Church, Church of the Dude, or Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, despite religious affiliations or lack thereof. Wherever your officiant gets ordained, just be sure to check that their license covers the state or country you’re marrying in.

How do I find an officiant?

I always suggest finding vendors by word of mouth. Ask your newly-married friends who they hired, as well as who any of your hired vendors would suggest. I am always happy to recommend people I’ve enjoyed working with before.

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